cdrini 2 months ago

Great great write-up! I would personally recommend meetups. I have found them to be a great way to be social and meet new people. And one thing that makes it nice is that there's no expectation of becoming life long friends -- being able to have a conversation with a stranger, sharing your life and learning about theirs, is grossly underrated. It is stressful to take that first step -- the first ones I went to, I was basically nautious the entire day leading up to it :P but after you do a few, it gets easier quickly. (Although I will note I don't have a family, so have more time for stuff like this!)

No guarantee you'll find someone at the exact level as you, but you might at least find someone in a similar spot who can relate and provide useful insights!

  • cab11150904 2 months ago

    Thanks for giving it a read. I am abundantly social. The exact opposite of my wife so nausea to he found. It's more finding and scheduling for me.

    • cdrini 2 months ago

      I've had success with https://meetup.com/ and https://guild.host/ for finding ; can't offer too much help with scheduling :P I generally check the above sites mid-week, and sign up for things in the coming week. That's been a nice sweet-spot for being able to be early enough before things fill up, while avoiding accidentally having to cancel other things in my life for the meetups.

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  • cdrini 2 months ago

    Hmmm the page isn't loading for me, I'm getting a "DNS_PROBE_FINISHED_NXDOMAIN" error.

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